Musings

40 Days of Dating

I woke up this morning in a funk. Yesterday I spent a good chunk of time reading about two designers in New York who were friends, only friends, and decided to date for 40 days. They say it takes 40 days to form a habit. Could the habit be love?

And so I read, the format consisting of each day written up by both Jessica and Timothy. They couldn't see what the other wrote, they didn't know what the other thought. And it was cute, really, to see how similar they were in certain areas, and how much they disagreed in others. The premise was that Jessica was too quick to love. And Timothy, he couldn't commit.

The romantic in me knew they would fall in love. It knew they were going to care more for each other than they'd cared for anyone else. But I wondered if they'd even admit it to themselves. And I was right. They did.

I made it to day 20 before I got tired, just mentally exhausted by all the ups and downs they'd gone through. I just needed to know how it ended. So I went to day 40, which made no sense without day 39, which made no sense at all. But I needed to know. So I read the final words from each person's day. And they were in love. But they weren't going to commit.

And I think there was a part of me that just wanted to be a little kid with profound and silent wisdom, and just ask them why they needed to make love so complicated. You know, the young child archetype who tugs on the adult's pants and whispers, "if you like her, and she likes you, how come you aren't together?" But I guess in real life it doesn't work that way.

After reading day 40, I went on a rampage. I had to find out, I had to know if they ended up together after all. And after much research all I did find out was that they want to turn their experience into a book. Which is all well and good, but are you going to have happily ever after?

So I guess, I woke up in a funk because it took me this long to realize that love isn't like in the movies. Or the books. Because they did love each other. And they could work together to figure it out. But as far as day 40, they weren't going to. And that scared me. Is that what the real world's going to be like?

Who knows.

To read about their 40 days, click below!

http://fortydaysofdating.com